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How I stay motivated

A friend recently asked me how I'm always so positive. I've never really thought about myself as a motivated person, but i'd like to think I ooze positivity. So here's my take on it.


I'm an excellent procrastinator, I often find myself doing anything but the task I actually need to do. When I was at Uni, I would always leave assignments to the last minute and never learned from it. I'm sure a lot of people can relate! But one thing my Uni friends will tell you is that I never stressed about it. My motto for the entire 3 year degree was, "It will be fine". I always had the confidence in myself that I would do what I needed to do and I would do it well. I have definitely carried this motto through other aspects of my life, especially work. "It'll be fine" may not seem like the words of someone who is focused and driven but they certainly work for me. I suppose it's a sort of positive outlook that helps me stay motivated.


I've talked before about having belief in myself and sometimes, to others around me, that belief is baffling, because my life probably appears a bit of a shambles. I have a pretty good CV and a decent degree in business. I could probably get a pretty good job in the corporate world (the back up plan), but instead I choose to try 'weird and wonderful' ways of making money on my terms and I never ever doubt myself. I see myself as having entrepreneurial spirit and I just haven't had a 'big break' yet. However, I imagine my friends and family see me as a 'Jez from Peep Show' character (LOL). A work shy freeloader and a bit of a dreamer. I've completely made this up in my head, nobody has ever called me a work shy freeloader. But i've definitely been the butt of the joke when it comes to my career choices. I don't mind though, because one day when all my dreams come true I will happily say 'I told you so'.


For me, that's what being motivated is about, positivity. I'm a pretty positive person and I can quite easily laugh it off when things go wrong in work and in life. But that's not always how's it's been, I grew up in a house where mental health was extremely prevalent and caused me to have a lot of negative emotions. I know this is a pretty touchy subject for a lot of people, but i'm just talking about my experience and how I managed to stay positive when it would have been very easy to let this experience mould me into a person full of self doubt. I saw how poor mental health affected my family member and I promised myself I would do everything I could to keep a positive mindset. My best coping mechanism when things get tough or if I feel my mental health dipping, is to remind myself that everything is temporary. I allow myself to have a whinge, but remembering that everything is temporary motivates me to push myself out of of a lull.


As you've probably gathered, I have some pretty ambitious goals set. I think goal setting is so important in staying motivated. I write them down everywhere, remind myself constantly of what I want to achieve and create mini goals that I need to achieve in order to get to my main goals. I'm a sucker for a motivational quote, self help books and listening to podcasts about entrepreneurship success stories. One thing I have noticed though, a lot of the success stories on these podcasts start with, "It was so difficult starting my business with absolutely nothing", next sentence - "My parents gave my 50k to start my business". This sort of thing instantly demotivates me. I can't relate. It's never a situation I will find myself in. So I switch off. To me, staying motivated is as much about avoiding things that demotivate me as it is about finding things that do motivate me.


If I find myself feeling a little less motivated than I'd like. I have a few quick fixes that usually work. I wear something that makes me feel happy, I listen to some upbeat music.. usually Kanye (his self confidence is on another level), but I've also been enjoying the GirlBoss soundtrack. The other day I was feeling stuck in a rut so I watched Legally Blonde, corny I know, but it worked for me!


So, to round up, what I'm trying to say is that a positive mindset does wonders for motivation.


Gaby x


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